A beginner must learn to cultivate what is called ’the balance of the dying one.’ What is this balance? It is the balance between knowing what is important and what is not, and accepting and forgiving.
Anyone who has ever been at the bedside of a dying person will understand this calm. What would the dying person do if someone insulted them? Nothing.
What would the dying person do if someone struck them? Nothing.
Lying there, would they have any intention of becoming famous or rich? No.
If someone who had wronged them asked for forgiveness, would they not grant it? Of course they would.A dying person knows the futility of enmity. Hatred is always such a miserable feeling. Who wants to die with hatred in their heart? No one. The dying seek love and peace.
— Xuyun
